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A home for eldest & only daughters of BIPOC families to be witnessed, resourced, and celebrated.

About Us

Mission

The Eldest Daughters Collective (EDC) is a peer support space for self‑identified eldest or only daughters of Black, Indigenous, and People of Color families. We center the lived realities, hopes, dreams, grief, and legendary resilience of eldest daughters—those who so often hold it down for everyone else.

We gather to practice rest, receive care, learn boundary skills, swap resources, laugh, grieve, and imagine new ways of being in relationship—without carrying the whole load alone.

Who Membership Is For

This space is for you if all of the following are true:

  • You are 18+.

  • You identify as an eldest or only daughter in your family system (we include trans, nonbinary, gender‑expansive people who relate to the eldest daughter role; see FAQ).

  • You are Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color.

  • You have been a parentified child—holding significant emotional, financial, caretaking, or spiritual labor for your family—and want a community that sees and honors that experience.

We define “eldest daughter” by responsibility, not strictly by birth order.

Snapshot of Our Community Agreements

  1. Consent & Check-Ins – Share from lived experience; ask before giving advice.

  2. Care for Capacity – Step in, step back. Rest is participation.

  3. Confidentiality – What’s shared here stays here (with clear safety exceptions).

  4. No Extraction – Eldest daughters deserve reciprocity.

  5. Liberatory Practice – We name systems, not individuals, as the root of harm. We center QTBIPOC, disabled, immigrant, and working-class voices.

What We Offer…

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    Live Community & Connection

    ✦Monthly virtual member circles (themes: rest, boundaries, family roles, joy practices).

    ✦Quarterly in‑person or hybrid gatherings in the DMV (and rotating pop‑ups elsewhere as capacity allows).

    ✦Member‑led peer pods / accountability groups (launching soon; help us pilot!).

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    Cross-Collective Collaboration & Networking

    ✦Connect with aligned collectives, creatives, and healers through collaborative events and shared resource drives.

    ✦Receive guidance and support from team members with 10+ years of experience in public health, coaching, healing justice, and entrepreneurship.

    ✦Benefit from the wisdom of leaders who deeply understand both systemic oppression and what it takes to build liberatory alternatives.

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    Care & Learning Resources

    ✦Downloadable self‑ and community‑care tools created by eldest daughters, for eldest daughters.

    ✦Guided practices: somatic resets, grounding, breath breaks for “eldest daughter shoulders.”

    ✦Resource referrals to culturally rooted healers, therapists, movement teachers, and more.

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    Programming & Perks

    ✦Early access + member pricing for workshops, retreats, and special events (including astrology, self‑care labs, and movement classes).

    ✦First look at ELDESTMagazine (digital), featuring eldest daughter stories across the lifespan.

    ✦Eligibility for member raffles, giveaways, and partner discounts.

    ✦Opportunities to vend, teach, or showcase your creative work at EDC markets and events.

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    Collective Voice & Leadership

    ✦Vote in member polls shaping our future tiers, programming, and advocacy work.

    ✦Access to leadership pathways including volunteer roles, facilitation trainings, and advisory council invitations.

    ✦Explore opportunities to co-host workshops, join panels, or partner on advocacy campaigns that uplift eldest daughter wisdom.

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    A Growing Global Community

    ✦Be part of a national and globally reaching network of eldest daughters of color, connecting across time zones, languages, and lived experiences.

    ✦Join a movement grounded in collective healing, joy, and liberation that transcends borders.

Join us today!

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Join us today! ✨

✨ Join the Eldest Daughters Collective today.

Founding Membership is free—now’s the time.

Let yourself be seen. Let yourself rest. Let’s build a future where eldest daughters thrive—and our communities do, too.

What to Expect After You are Accepted…

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    Complete a short intake form so we can get to know you.

  • Receive invites to our next monthly circle and upcoming events.

  • Share your voice in our first Founding Member survey.

✺ Frequently asked questions ✺

  • Yes. Most of us are eldest or only daughters by birth order, but we also welcome folks who stepped into the role of the eldest. If you’ve been the one carrying emotional, financial, or spiritual labor for your family, this space is for you.

  • Absolutely! If you relate to the experience of being the eldest or only daughter in your family and are Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color, you are welcome here. We affirm and celebrate all gender identities and expressions, and in fact, have gender-expansive folks in our leadership team and community.

  • No. This is a peer support and collective wisdom space, not a clinical therapy group. While healing happens here, we do not offer crisis support or clinical mental health services.

  • No. We know life is full. Come when you can and participate in the ways that feel good to you. You’ll still receive updates, invitations, and resources even if you miss a gathering. We find that attending as many meetings as possible helps build deeper relationships and community- so we encourage you to come as you are and to as many as possible!

  • Yes. We are building a community with national and global reach. Most of our gatherings are virtual, and we welcome members from different countries, languages, and diasporas.

  • Yes. We’re building this together, and there are many ways to contribute. From helping with events or social media to co-facilitating peer spaces or supporting outreach, we welcome members who want to step into leadership. Founding Members will also have early access to volunteer roles, trainings, and advisory opportunities. Let us know you're interested when you fill out your intake form.