Join our Collective!
A home for eldest & only daughters of BIPOC families to be witnessed, resourced, and celebrated.
About Us
The Eldest Daughters Collective (EDC) is a peer support space for self‑identified eldest or only daughters of Black, Indigenous, and People of Color families. We center the lived realities, hopes, dreams, grief, and legendary resilience of eldest daughters, those who so often hold it down for everyone else.
We gather to practice rest, receive care, learn boundary skills, swap resources, laugh, grieve, and imagine new ways of being in relationship without carrying the whole load alone.
Who Membership is for
This space is for you if all of the following are true:
You are 18+.
You identify as an eldest or only daughter in your family system (we include trans, nonbinary, gender‑expansive people who relate to the eldest daughter role; see FAQ).
You are Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color.
You have been a parentified child, holding significant emotional, financial, caretaking, or spiritual labor for your family, and want a community that sees and honors that experience.
We define “eldest daughter” by responsibility, not solely by birth order.
How does membership work?
Apply to join the Eldest Daughters Collective.
If accepted, you’ll receive an email with the next steps.
Choose your membership tier and create your account in our Circle community portal.
Join the community: attend gatherings, access resources, and connect with other eldest members.
Choose your plan
Seed Tier
Free
For those exploring the space. Come as you are, grow as you can.
Includes:
Live access to 10 monthly member meetings per year (no recordings)
Monthly EDC newsletter with reflections, healing prompts & community updates
Birthday shout-outs in our EDC newsletter & Circle portal
Invitations to in-person & virtual community meetups (e.g., hikes, markets, pop-ups)
Access to quarterly (4) healing workshops (paid: $75 each)
Access to the first-ever EDC Residency program (5 sessions) (paid: $50 each)
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Root Tier
$11/month
or $132 $118/year (save 10%)
For those cultivating collective care with intention, joy, and shared responsibility.
Everything in the Root Tier, plus:
Full access to quarterly (4) healing workshops a year (includes
recordings)
Full access to the first-ever EDC Residency program (5 sessions)
Discounts on all paid offerings/events (e.g., Flower Bar, Retreats)
Receive an annual member appreciation gift
Bloom Tier
$33/month
or $396 $355/year (save 10%)
For those ready to gently show up, share energy, and nurture connection.
Everything in the Seed Tier, plus:
All monthly member meeting recordings (including past year recordings)
Exclusive access to Eldest Magazine
Ask an Eldest (advice + insight space)
Access to all Affinity Groups (queer & parent)
New Digital Resource Library
New EDC Business Directory
Receive a digital welcome gift
Access to quarterly (4) healing workshops (paid, with special 20% discount)
Access to the first-ever EDC Residency program (5 sessions) (paid, with special 20% discount)
What We Offer…
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Live Community & Connection
✦Monthly virtual member circles (themes: rest, boundaries, family roles, joy practices).
✦Quarterly in‑person or hybrid gatherings in the DMV (and rotating pop‑ups elsewhere as capacity allows).
✦Member‑led peer pods / accountability groups (launching soon; help us pilot!).
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Cross-Collective Collaboration & Networking
✦Connect with aligned collectives, creatives, and healers through collaborative events and shared resource drives.
✦Receive guidance and support from team members with 10+ years of experience in public health, coaching, healing justice, and entrepreneurship.
✦Benefit from the wisdom of leaders who deeply understand both systemic oppression and what it takes to build liberatory alternatives.
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Care & Learning Resources
✦Downloadable self‑ and community‑care tools created by eldest daughters, for eldest daughters.
✦Guided practices: somatic resets, grounding, breath breaks for “eldest daughter shoulders.”
✦Resource referrals to culturally rooted healers, therapists, movement teachers, and more.
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Programming & Perks
✦Early access + member pricing for workshops, retreats, and special events (including astrology, self‑care labs, and movement classes).
✦First look at ELDESTMagazine (digital), featuring eldest daughter stories across the lifespan.
✦Eligibility for member raffles, giveaways, and partner discounts.
✦Opportunities to vend, teach, or showcase your creative work at EDC markets and events.
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Collective Voice & Leadership
✦Vote in member polls shaping our future tiers, programming, and advocacy work.
✦Access to leadership pathways including volunteer roles, facilitation trainings, and advisory council invitations.
✦Explore opportunities to co-host workshops, join panels, or partner on advocacy campaigns that uplift eldest daughter wisdom.
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A Growing Global Community
✦Be part of a national and globally reaching network of eldest daughters of color, connecting across time zones, languages, and lived experiences.
✦Join a movement grounded in collective healing, joy, and liberation that transcends borders.
Snapshot of Community Agreements
Consent & Check-Ins – Share from lived experience; ask before giving advice.
Care for Capacity – Step in, step back. Rest is participation.
Confidentiality – What’s shared here stays here (with clear safety exceptions).
No Extraction – Eldest daughters deserve reciprocity.
Liberatory Practice – We name systems, not individuals, as the root of harm. We center QTBIPOC, disabled, immigrant, and working-class voices.
These are Founding Membership rates so now’s the time to join!
Let yourself be seen. Let yourself rest. Let’s build a future where eldest daughters thrive and our communities do, too.
FAQs
I’m not the oldest by age. Can I still join?
While most of us are eldest or only daughters by birth order, we also welcome folks who stepped into the role of the eldest. If you’ve been the one carrying emotional, financial, or spiritual labor for your family, this space is for you.
I’m trans, nonbinary, or gender-expansive. Can I be part of this community?
Absolutely! If you relate to the experience of being the eldest or only daughter in your family and are Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color, you are welcome here. We affirm and celebrate all gender identities and expressions, and in fact, have gender-expansive folks in our leadership team and community.
Is this the same as a therapy group?
No. This is a peer support and collective wisdom space, not a clinical therapy group. While healing happens here, we do not and can not offer crisis support or clinical mental health services.
Do I need to attend every event to stay a member?
Come as you are and when you can! We know life is full. You’ll still receive updates, invitations, and resources even if you miss a gathering. We find that attending as many meetings as possible helps build deeper relationships and community, so we encourage you to come as you are and to as many as possible!
I don’t live in the U.S. Can I still join?
Yes. We are building a community with national and global reach. Most of our gatherings are virtual, and we welcome members from different countries, languages, and diasporas.
Can I volunteer or help lead something in the Collective?
Yes. We’re building this together, and there are many ways to contribute. From helping with events or social media to co-facilitating peer spaces or supporting outreach, we welcome members who want to step into leadership. Founding Members will also have early access to volunteer roles, trainings, and advisory opportunities. Let us know you're interested when you fill out your intake form.
Can I change or cancel my membership tier?
Yes. You can upgrade, lower, or cancel your membership at any time through Circle. If you need support, contact our leadership team.
Do you offer scholarships or sliding scale options?
Our Seed tier is free and designed for accessibility, and we occasionally open scholarship spots. If cost is a barrier, contact us to inquire about current scholarship opportunities.